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Griffin/Ferguson Wedding

June 12, 2010

Saturday of Pentecost 2                                                                                     

12 June 2010                                   


Genesis 2:18-25; Ephesians 5; Matthew 19


Male.  Female.  Husband.  Wife.  Holy Marriage.  Goes all the way back to the beginning.  “Haven’t you read,” Jesus said, “that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female and said ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become one flesh?’  So they are no longer two, but one.  Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.” 


Yes, marriage is holy because the Lord instituted it.  He gives it to you Allison and Tom as His gift to you.  A gift to care for.  In the one union flesh of your marriage. 


Tom, it’s not good for you to be alone.  God’s good will is to give you Allison — to be your wife.  “Bone of your bones and flesh of your flesh.”   Husband and wife.  Two.  Yet one flesh.  And it is a closed communion.  Just you and Allison.  For life.  That’s is God pleasing.  It goes all the way back to the beginning. 


Tom, you are given to love Allison as Christ has loved the church.  How did Christ love the church His bride?  He died for her.  Gave His life into death for her.  Total self-sacrifice.  Christ didn’t and doesn’t live for Himself.  He lives for the good of His bride the church.  And so that it the pattern of your life as husband to Allison.  YOU LIVE FOR HER.  For her good.  For her benefit. 


That’s what it means to be the head of the family.  It doesn’t mean being the bully or the boss.  It means being the servant.  Putting her needs above yours.  “Husbands, love your wives as your own body.”  Ironically, Tom, when you love Allison, that’s when you love yourself.  “He who loves his wife loves himself.”  Your attention is to be on her.  Not you.   


Allison, when you gave your “yes” to Tom’s proposal for marriage, you willingly decided to order your life differently, didn’t you?  For better for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish until death parts you.  And how will you now order your life from this day forward?  THAT YOU WILL BE WIFE for Tom.  Yes, that’s right.  To submit to your husband is to be wife for him.  Your life is ordered as wife only to Tom.


All this isn’t easy.  Living in holy marriage is the hardest work in the world.  And many people just call it quits when times get tough.  Al and Tipper Gore.  Dog Whisperer Star Cesar Milan and his wife too.  Sandra Bullock and Jesse James.  John and Kate.  Just call it quits. 


Talk to the old timers who’ve been married for forty plus years or more.  Ask them how they did it.  And they’ll say:  “We just stuck it out.  Even when we didn’t like each other for a time.  Even when we didn’t love each other at various times.” 


They stuck it out.  Because holy marriage didn’t belong to them.  It was a gift from the Lord.  And they were to take care of it. 


And the biggest way to take care of your marriage is to confess your sin to each other when you sin.  And you will sin.  You will hurt each other.  Say and do things you’ll regret.  Don’t throw in the towel.  Confess your sin.  And then forgive each other.  Say it!  Say, “I forgive you.  Jesus died for you.  His Blood covers your sin my beloved!” 


How does it go when there’s no forgiveness going on?  There’s grudge matches.  Sleeping on the couch.  The silent treatment.  Pay backs.  And that kind of life is a prison not a marriage. 


But with the forgiveness of sins spoken to each other there is a house.  A home. 


And then the relationship can go on.  In the freedom of Christ’s forgiveness.  For where there is forgiveness of sin there is life and salvation.  Life — to live in the joy as husband and wife.  And salvation – won by the Lord Jesus on the Cross for you.      


Tom and Allison, we wish you God’s richest blessings today.  We wish you a long and happy married life. 


In the Name of Jesus.     


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